The relationship is changing over the years. Passion becomes less important, and trust, loyalty and respect are at the forefront. “In love” is slowly withdrawing from love.
All this is perfectly normal, but many are scared when they notice that their relationship is no longer the same as it was before.
The proximity of the couples are most often due to changes in their life, whether this is the birth of the first child, stress due to an increased amount of work or even because of the illness that one partner may experience. If problems arise in other areas of life, most people begin to fix them very quickly. In the case of problems in partnership or in sexuality, many react exactly the opposite; they hesitate very long before they trust their partner and begin to solve the problems. They are afraid that their partners will be affected by their thinking, so they prefer to sweep the difficulties under the carpet. But with this, the problems, both in relationship and in sexuality, deepens further.
Many have very basic ideas about what sexuality should be. Most think that this is just a penetration, without which sex should not exist at all. For some, this is fine, but the problem may arise when penetration is temporarily or permanently no longer possible or desirable for any reasons. In this case, people with this kind of thinking are subverting the world because they are not ready to accept that sex is much broader than their believes. For a traditional man, the loss of control in a sexual relationship can be a serious problem; the traditional woman is equally permitted to play a different role than that of a subordinate, which is prescribed by traditional patterns.
Satisfactory sex has the couples who know how to:
- Enjoy in sex with each other,
- Talk about when there is dissatisfaction with sex,
- Take into account the emotions of each other,
- Treat each other respectfully,
- Together upgrade the partnership and take a mutual responsibility for it.
Unlike men, the number of problems in women has been decreasing over the years. Research shows that married people have less sexual disorders compared to single ones, regardless of gender. There is also a link between sexual disorders and the general quality of life. Experiencing sexual problems are more common among men and women who are in poor physical condition and have emotional problems. Interestingly, women from different racial groups suffer from various sexual disorders. Of course, it is not negligible that the problems are very much associated with negative experiences in sexuality and in general with poor well-being. An increasing number of sexual disorders are an increasing social problem. The consequences of sexual intercourse can be seen as a loss of self-esteem, feelings of guilt over failure and partnership problems. On the basis of statistics, 40% of women and 30% of men have problems with sexual disorders.
By Vesna Jarc